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Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Sibling Rivalry

Dania and Dina usually get along fine. They play and study together and they have their "secret" meetings in their rooms (usually it's to decide which Disney princess to imitate for the week). However lately I've noticed that they've been fighting more then usual. I think it's because Dania is entering the "tween" age group while Dina is still in the kids segment. I think I can relate; I remember hating my brother when we were that age. Urgh, everything he did annoyed me.We would fight a lot but my guess is that fighting with a brother is totally different than fighting with a sister. I wouldn't know for sure, I have no sisters to call my own.

A few days back, I found this note lying on my study table. Apparently, the girls had been fighting again. My eyes welled up with tears when I read the note.

"I am sorry kaklong but when you don't like me I don't no (know) you say what to me. [heart] Dina."

I asked Dania about the note and she just sighed. I asked her what had Dina done but all I got was the usual *grumble..grumble..grumble*. I asked her if she still loved her sister and if they had made up yet. Fortunately she gave a positive answer to both questions; not that I was doubting it anyway.

My dear girls. I know you won't understand now but I sincerely hope you both grow up to be the best of friends. I hope you continue to love each other and support each other, no matter what. I hope you both know you can come to me whenever you have problems or just need to talk. I hope you both know how much I love you.

Now stop fighting already!!


theotheraj said...


gaduh in english..

Mom-On-The-Loose said...

hey dear.

I've got 2 older sisters and another one 11 years younger than me. My sisters and I fought a LOT. well, actually my 2nd sis and i don't but that's because of her personality....

Now my friends and I have talked about this before and we kinda agreed that you can't or won't be close if you don't fight. I think it's true. Siblings who fight a lot, Insya Allah would end up being close... their just working out the dynamics of their relationship...

as parents, what's important is not to take sides and try our best to validate their feelings without hurting the other party.

it's a fine line and I myself am going crazy from all the sibling rivalry between my 3 girls, YES, even the lil one gaduh skarang ni *sigh*

tapi Insya Allah, they'll get through this. May Allah grant us the patience to deal with them well :)

Along said...

TOAJ: Itu baru tulis note. Blum dengar diaorg gaduh in real life. Macam2 expression kluar...terlebih tengok Disney channel aku rasa.

MOTL: I hope you're right. I know they love each other but sometimes it gets really annoying hearing them fight over everything under the sun. I try not to take sides, so I punish both!! Don't know if that's better or worst...sob.

Mom-On-The-Loose said...

tu ah... kalau dlm 'buku' diorang kata punish both!!! baru fair!! but you're right, susah giler not to take sides and rasa risau sgt bila diorang dok gaduh kan?? tak pe. we try our best. Insya Allah, they'll have a close relationship. I desperately want my kids to have a good relationship...

Padayappa said...

Yeah.. I hate u too long time u NKOTB obsess annoying sis! Now u private ur blog? Kecohhh.. ;p

Along said...

NKOTB rules!!! I [heart] Jordan Knight!!