Wednesday, January 25, 2006

White Women vs Malay Man

I got this from my colleague..really good email. Kind of funny. Also I hope to all those who read it, especially my overseas readers who are white, please don't take offense.

The first letter from a White Female who married a Malay guy. The second letter comes from a Malay guy, responding to the first letter.

Dear Editor:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Malay male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Malay male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Malay female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Malay women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative,too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Malay men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Malay women are so up in arms about us being with their men,why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.

I would like to hear from some Malay men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of, 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes, ..I could go on and on.

But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Malay men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in Bangsar.

Read On.............
This letter was written in response to an article:

Dear Editor: I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Malay man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in England with a Masters Of Science Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a Multinational Corporation and have recently purchased a
house and a brand new non-national car. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Malay men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Malay men date white women.

Back in the days, one of the biggest reasons why Malay men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Malay girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Malay males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Malay men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Malay women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Malay men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous Malay men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all succe ssful Malay men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed.

Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.
Read your history!
It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught y ou how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Malay women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a
woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the Malay women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Malay Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Malay women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their h ighest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have
fallen in love with Malay women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and ; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Malay Professional


Amzira S. said...

hehe...mana dpt artikel ni?bagusnya. a good boost for malay mmg betul pun.

Anonymous said...

seen this article before. but the original article was actually from a white woman downgrading black woman (African) and it was responded by a black man. Thats why u can see the names of all popular black man (Michael Jordan etc) being cited.

but "snotty" people exist in ALL skin types (tak mengira warna kulit)

Along said...

Amzira: Got it from my colleague. When I read it, it made me feel proud to be a malay woman too.

Anonymous: Ur right. Snotty people cannot be generalised into races. Still I hope you had a good read from the article.

ila de cute said...

hehheh... feel proud being a malay woman...

dillazag said...

Along -- Just discovered your blog through Noresh's and Nadya's. Loved reading it... Two thumbs up, girl... I hope you remember me.. -Dilla Zaghlol-

baby_theory said...


lieawulf said...

wah...a good article to start the new year ^__^

Kampung Gal said...

sayangnya there are not that many men like Malay Professional out there.


Along said...

Ila: Aren't we all proud too? Glad you enjoyed the article.

Kak Dilla: Goodeness gracious!! You are alive!! Of coz I remember you..hahah, last time I met you masa kat IKEA, you were preggers at the time. Keep in touch and glad to see ur blogging too.

BT: TQ for the saying. Made me think...

Liea: Glad u liked it too. Semalat Maal Hijrah.

KG: How you know not many? Got lah...just have to keep searching.

To all those Malay professionals out there, make urself known!! :)

hamba ALLAH said...

what an article!
guys, these two articles are full of prejudices.the truth is some people choose one white woman because she is the one regardless of her colour, cooking skills,attitude. allah made everyone in this world in pair.better stop thinking that malay or white women are better than one another. i am married to a pious white woman for her love to Allah is the only important thing!

yuz said...

to all malay women here,
it is true that malay women are proud.
but proud of what? just being malay or being as successful as those white women in the west?

Anonymous said...

Dear Malay "Professional",
White women are easy and Malay women are hard? You must be pretty ugly to say Malay women are hard. The truth is that malay women like handsome men..Jawa, Bangla, Pakistan, Cina, etc. They don't care if the man is rich or poor.

Most White women are racist and think that malay men (even "handsome" as you call yourself) are ugly and look like monyet. You had no chance..may be the kitchen made at your UK college might want you but certainly not your classmates at unjiversity. So stop telling did not marry a White women because you couldn't get one. As for the gentleman who married one, good on you, syabash, well done. Look after her and love her.You know your kids will be pretty enough or handsome enough to marry royalty.

Another malay guy said...

totally obvious.."Anonymous" is a chinese..

Anonymous said...

This was written by a black man lol. I can't believe how many times this thing has been posted!! And now they are changing the race! Anyway,that lady should get off her high horse.

Anonymous said...

White women, or more appropriately, women of western cultures regardles sof apparent skin colour tend to use sexuality as a means to get affection from men but this is not the case for Malay women may they be from Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, or the Phiippines. It is too bad though that the newer generation of Filipino women have adopted so much of the western culture and are now becoming promiscuous and too liberated.

Biga-on gyud ang mga babaye'ng puti.

Zery said...

Dear people..I'm WHITE MUSLIM girl and I think so is not necessary to insult anyone.. GOD CREATED US IN THE MOST BEAUTIFUL FORM and we should be happy about it. Most important is inner beauty, because one they we become old and we need to have someone who really will love us because what we are, not because of the way we look!!! I'm studying in Malaysia and every day I'm surrounded with Malay girls who telling me that they like my fair skin and light hair.. But I'm always telling them that they are beautiful as they are, they should be satisfied and confident with themselves :D We people are just like that..never satisfied with what they have..always thinking that someones is nicer than ours.. I don't think so that I'm better because I'm white..just respect and don not humiliate anyone regardless race or creed.
P.S I like Malay boys :D

Anonymous said...

well zery, probably im the malay boy u looking for. lol

Beatrice said...

Thanks for boxing all of us 'white women'
For the record I have never been to a tanning salon in my life and I did not use my sexuality to find my husband who is Malay. We love each other because of who we are, we don't care about where we are from or what race we happen to be. You can't generalise people like this or box people in terms of race or gender. There is good and bad in all types of people wherever they are from and beauty can be found in all types of men and women. Please stop generalising and using silly stereotypes to form your opinions. It does no good for the world to have those attitudes. Love people for WHO they are regardless of anything.

Anonymous said...

You see malay women are not couraged to have an education as much as the men here. All womens here a taught to do house chores since we are 12. But nowadays a lot of malay women can manage having a good education and career while taking care of their children and husband