Only When I'm Dead Buddy..Only When I'm Dead.

All this Hoo-Ha about Ayah Pin has gotten me uneasy because:

A. This fella has convinced many people that he is God and has the power to cause people harm or even death just by starring at them (just one of his many wild claims).
B. He has 4 wives, who he claims and I quote “were not his choice but were chosen for him.”

I guess what he wanted to say was that he’s not an itching, old b@#$%*d like one would think but actually it was the wives who wanted to marry him. Because of course, he’s God and he’s Almighty and he’s the greatest...blah, blah, blah.

It pisses me off that this kind of person exists. It pisses me off even more that the wives are so willing to resign themselves to this arrangement. According to the reports, the second wife was chosen by the first wife coz she wanted someone to take care of her husband when she grew old. The third and fourth wives were chosen for the very same reason.

My question is does this fella REALLY need 4 wives to take care of him? What happened to the notion that the Man was supposed to take care of the Wife? If the first wife grows old, doesn’t it mean that Ayah Pin would be older still? Who takes care of the first wife when she’s old...or the second, third and fourth wife for that matter?

I asked hubby a few times if he had ever thought of having more than one wife. His answer: Satu pun dah pening, lagi mau kawin banyak. (You alone give me a headache sometimes, why should I want more.)

Ok, so not the romantic answer I was looking.

So I told him, “If you ever..EVER, think about other women or want to marry another, you better let me know. We can file for divorce coz there’s no way in hell I want to share you.”

Yes, rather drastic some of you might think. But seriously, when you think about it, can you really...REALLY go on kissing and sleeping with your husband when you know other women are kissing and sleeping with him too?

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I think I need to step back a bit and define polygamy for my foreign readers. In Islam, the husband is allowed to take on as many as 4 wives at one time WITH A CONDITION that all wives (and children) are treated equally and everyone is cared for, financially, spiritually and emotionally. So you see, actually polygamy in Islam is not a luxury, as some men think it is, but rather a very HUGE responsibility. Unfortunately there are only few men out there that are truly able to bear this responsibility yet so many of them take on wives as if they were taking up magazine subscriptions.
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Back to my discussion with hubby. After I told him that, he assured me that (for now(!)), he has no intention of marrying another woman, so can I just stop bugging him about it coz he really wants to watch CSI in peace.

Of course, I have to drag the subject on and on. So I tell him, “ But if (touch wood!!) I die first, then you have my permission to marry another. In fact, get married straight away coz I really can’t see you handling the kids by yourself and I don’t want them to be raised by their grandparents. I want you to marry a nice woman who loves children and is kind to you and you don’t have to wait until I’m dead for a year or so.”

At this point, hubby rolls his eyes and says, “Stop talking about dying coz you’re making me uneasy and furthermore it’s not like I can tackle and marry Laetitia Casta, who I’m really GAGA over.”

Dush!! One big punch on the shoulder for hubby.

So in conclusion, hubby can only marry another IF AND ONLY IF:
a. I’m dead
b. I’m infertile, which I’m not, so really it’s only option a.

Subject closed.