tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post111199204192646164..comments2023-11-05T19:00:41.878+08:00Comments on Along's Blog: What To Do...What To Do?!!Alonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04216763409428044080noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post-1112153110042875192005-03-30T11:25:00.000+08:002005-03-30T11:25:00.000+08:00Choice #3 if you have the luxury of taking a month...Choice #3 if you have the luxury of taking a month's leave. If paling teruk, you can always opt for #1, #2. #2 is hard 'cos the kids need time to adjust to new environment and they do get sick often when mixed with other kids. Ok, I am a wet blanket.5xmom.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04713075916549169292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post-1112077757686985082005-03-29T14:29:00.000+08:002005-03-29T14:29:00.000+08:00Dang it! Tak reti kira kah aku?That should've been...Dang it! Tak reti kira kah aku?<BR/><BR/>That should've been Option 5 :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post-1112077484740171532005-03-29T14:24:00.000+08:002005-03-29T14:24:00.000+08:00Option 4: Your mom picks up Adam, then heads off t...Option 4: Your mom picks up Adam, then heads off to your place. At least, the 3 tots have each other as company. And I, no longer have to be a part time chauffeur :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post-1112019610587726952005-03-28T22:20:00.000+08:002005-03-28T22:20:00.000+08:00Darlin, I hear you. This is one of the hardest dec...Darlin, I hear you. <BR/><BR/>This is one of the hardest decisions a parent has to make. Particularly, I think, a mom just because when the baby is first born, by virtue of her boobs, mom is generally the primary caretaker, so letting the babies go is harder for her.<BR/><BR/>If you were in the US I would definately champion day care. Over here we have all sorts of laws in place that can help you choose a day care that is healthy and safe. Also, and this is a big thing here, once kids start school it's assumed that most of them have been in a day care, so that most of them should already be socialized. By three years old they are expected to understand how group interactions work, and kids who don't have that kind of learning start off behind. They catch up, but they do start off behind the rest of the pack.<BR/><BR/>There are many good reasons for day care over here. I did that for Charlie because, A) like you, I thought I'd go bonkers if I stayed home alone with him all day. I'm an extrovert and don't make a very good housewife; b) because I think that there are better ways for Charlie to spend his day than bouncing in his bouncer while I fold laundry; and C) he loves other kids. We didn't find this out until he started day care, but it turns out that he actually gets stroppy if he doesn't get to go. He loves his DCP with his whole heart and adores the other children.<BR/><BR/>That's us.<BR/><BR/>You, however, are in a different position and have to make whatever choices you can.<BR/><BR/>I think that the choice to let them go for a month is right out. It would be for me. As a last resort, okay, but not before anything else.<BR/><BR/>You seem pretty uncomfortable with the day-care idea, and that's fine and fine and fine. So day care is out.<BR/><BR/>Staying home is no good if you're going to go bonkers. The kids need a good caregiver, not someone who's upset and frustrated (and I say this as someone who has this reaction to being home for long periods of time).<BR/><BR/>As I see it that leaves you with choice 1. Borrow your mom's maid. If she would like to, let your mom help out. There are a thousand ways you can pay her back, with dinner or a gift or a vacation or something, and there's no harm in letting the kids spend serious time with grandma. We had my mother-in-law here for a week and she had Charlie all day and they both LOVED it.<BR/><BR/>In no time the new maid will have a handle on the kid's schedule so your mom should be able to get a break and walk away if she needs to.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. I don't judge you at all. Day care was the right choice for us, and here in the states it's a real asset, but that doesn't mean that it's right for everyone.<BR/><BR/>You're doing good. Hang in there.<BR/><BR/>KKrissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07753338289610993937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8105183.post-1112004914087337882005-03-28T18:15:00.000+08:002005-03-28T18:15:00.000+08:00Sis.. breath in.. breath out..breath in.. breath o...Sis.. breath in.. breath out..<BR/>breath in.. breath out..<BR/>Just let ibu take care of anja & dina.. she loves doing dat anyway..<BR/>her vitamin business can take a back seat for a while, no worries..<BR/>(memandai je ngah - well, as usual)<BR/>Damn, I miss anja..<BR/><BR/>*Padayappa*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com